Navigating school fundraisers: How to support without feeling overwhelmed

It’s barely the second week of school, and your child has already come home with a catalog of cookie dough, a pledge form for a fun run and a reminder to send in baked goods for Friday’s sale. Sound familiar?

School fundraisers are a common part of the academic year, helping raise money for everything from field trips and art supplies to classroom technology and extracurriculars. While supporting your child’s school can feel rewarding, it can also start to feel overwhelming, especially when requests come in rapid-fire.

So how do you decide when to pitch in and when it’s OK to sit one out?

Understanding What’s Behind the Ask

First, it helps to know where the money is going. Many fundraisers support essential school functions that aren’t covered by district budgets. Others fund special activities, like music performances, school gardens or new playgrounds. Ask what the goal is and how the funds will be used. Transparent communication can make it easier to support a cause that truly matters to your family.

It’s also worth noting who’s organizing the event. Is it the school itself, the PTO or a third-party fundraising company? Some companies take a significant cut of the proceeds, which might influence your decision to participate or opt for a direct donation instead.

Finding Ways to Say Yes (Without Overcommitting)

If you want to support your school but can’t (or don’t want to) sell wrapping paper to your entire contact list, look for alternatives. Some parents prefer to make a one-time financial contribution in lieu of selling. Others volunteer their time, like helping at an event or donating baked goods instead of buying raffle tickets.

Choose the fundraisers that align with your values and your schedule. Maybe you skip the fall fundraiser but show up big for the spring auction. Maybe you buy from one child’s classroom effort but not another. It’s all about finding a balance that works for you and your family.

How to Say No with Confidence and Kindness

It’s completely OK to say no. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, but if you want to be polite, a simple “We’re not participating in this one, but thank you for thinking of us” does the job.

You can also set limits with your child. Explain that while you’re proud of them for helping their school, you won’t be able to contribute to every fundraiser. Let them help choose which ones to participate in. It’s a great chance to teach financial responsibility and thoughtful giving.

At the end of the day, your value as a parent isn’t measured in cookie sales or raffle tickets. Supporting your child’s education comes in many forms and setting boundaries can be part of a healthy, supportive approach.